So I got a message, semi-tangential to the brief exchange of Wednesday about how friendship needs more trust than Shitlord has currently given me reason to have.
It is problematic in a few ways:
First, he has not mentioned it before. He has not mentioned the other guy, who it seems he has settled with, since the night he came over for the talk immediately after things blew up. Hasn't mentioned his existing or their relationship at all since then. And in that talk the sentiment he gave about it was not one that matches this message. He straight out said it wasn't going to work and would be over soon, as was pretty forward in hoping I would give him another shot. Maybe acting rather too much like it was a given that I would.
Second, I had said nothing that would give any indication I want anything more than friendship from him. The conversation was about if he could ever prove worth of even deserving any of my friendship. He is taking some pretty sizeable steps based on nothing I had said.
Third, where was this relationships count for something attitude when the relationship was with me? I am really not the person to use that line on after cheating on me for years and now I am just supposed to believe you are, by nature, someone who doesn't cheat. There is no way that isn't a slap in my face.
I could explain this all to him, but what would be the point. He clearly doesn't actually care about the effect he has on people around him.
Though it helps with one thing, it makes things more clear that he does not deserve my friendship.
Also, I think he has conflated conversations with other recent cast-offs.

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